Friday, August 03, 2007

What would one want from a companion, especially when you know that you’ll spend the rest of your life with him / her? Is it similar traits? Is it subservience? Is it friendship? Is it unquestionable trust and understanding? Is it attractive physical looks? Is it intelligence? Is it love? Is it gentleness?... All of them or none of them? What is it?

It is difficult to pin point anything in particular. Nobody is perfect. It is difficult to expect one not to expect anything from the other. Give and take is a norm in any relation. A denial of change is the first step towards an ominous relationship.

Of course, there has always been a long standing debate that it is easier to be with a person you know already, but what is conveniently forgotten is that before you knew the person, he / she was a stranger. You gave the permission to explore your space, got to know each other and thereby knew whether you’d be comfortable around one another.
Every person has a certain aspiration. Some realistic some idealistic some plain vain.

Some think they’d be attractive if they shake off the rich values and tradition, hum an English tune, sport a piercing, wear funky clothes, speak the most atrocious imitative English possible, cuss India, just echo the mindless words spoken by myriad people who care a damn about anything…Some are too meek to come out of their shells, are so introvert that you’d have to make a journey to the centre of the earth. To strike a balance is the key. To know when to yap and when to keep your trap shut is an art. To give and share all you have is imbibed.

As for my likes and dislikes, I like people who can bring a smile and spread warmth and happiness where ever they go - a people's person, in short. I would like to meet someone who is a go-getter; smart in what he does; flexible, interesting, talented & understanding, with an astute sense of humour, a person who has a modern outlook; who has the quality to accept people as they are; a person with a good mix of modern and traditional values; Someone who is more of an outdoors person, who is not comfortable with an idiot box, a couch and four walls. A companion for life.

5 comments:

Sunshine said...

Hey Guys (Ramya and Brat)! Glad to know you are alive and posting :-)

Ramya: I hope you bump into someone who's just like how you've described! Good luck :-)

Bharath Hemachandran said...

Rams... life works in funny ways. One moment you are single, and carefree .. where the only person you need to take care of is yourself.

The next thing you know you are married for 6 months!

Life works in funny ways. Everything will work out fine in the end. It's just a matter of time.

@sunshine - Hi! Welcome back.

cure for ennui said...

hey sunshine!yup we'r kicking! thanks for stopping by! as you say, life is funny brat and so unpredictable. Luck does have a serious part to play in the turn of events.

Anonymous said...

I guess arranged marriages are a gamble. If it clicks, good for u. Anyway, what happens after marriage is also in yr hands. Marriage is a give and take policy.It takes a lot of understanding and patience to make a marriage work for u.

Anonymous said...

i guess u should seek a person who would appreciate yr point of view. needn't always agree with u all the time, but should be a person would will be prepared to compromise on some occassions.